If you look up the actual definition of the word, “waiting” in the Oxford Dictionary is this;
“the fact of staying where you are or delaying doing something until somebody/something comes or something happens.”
If you follow along with us on Facebook, you might notice that one of the most important things I try to stress to young girls and women is that yes, waiting is hard, annoying, frustrating, and sometimes even heartbreaking, but that THIS is the perfect opportunity to find yourself and to encounter a love romance with God.
Singleness, if you ask me, has been given a bad rep. Every single movie you watch, revolves around a love story. It’s everywhere you look. You see it in television, songs, advertisements, it’s basically in your face ALL THE TIME. No wonder so many men and women are rushing into relationships.
But there is good reason to take heart if you are single. Each day that God has put breath in your lungs is a day to cherish the life you’ve been given, whether you are married or single. We like to try to put a time table on God, then get angry when things don’t happen in our timing. If only we could see all of the things God has protected us from, and all the ways in which He is preparing us.
The most important thing in your life is not to get married, despite what some may say. The most important goal that we should constantly pursue in our lifetimes is a romance with Jesus. A relationship with God is the MOST important relationship you can have.
I don’t say this to discredit anyone’s feelings. Sometimes waiting can be absolutely heart wrenching and I get that. I LIVED that. But I’m here to hopefully give you a new perspective on the life that you should be living now, and hopefully brighten your day for a better tomorrow. We have to approach every area of our life, including marriage, with a Godly mindset.
With that being said, here are 10 simple truths to remember if you are struggling with being single.
1.It’s better to remain single than to marry the wrong person.
One of the worst mistakes you can make in this life is to rush a relationship that God didn’t intend for you. Every person you are with, you have ties to spiritually. If you rush ahead of God you may find yourself miserable and broken in a relationship with someone who was never meant for you. That’s enough reason within itself to stay put and wait for God to bring along your spouse.
2.There is beauty in every season, including your singleness.
So many men and women wish away so many precious years because they’ve been taught its better to be in a wrong relationship than to be lonely. God has a purpose for every season of your life, just as King Solomon wrote in Ecclesiastes chapter 3. God has a purpose for your season of singleness, and he has a time and purpose for your marriage. Embrace this moment and don’t let another day go by wishing for something that’s not intended for you yet.
3.GOD HAS SOMEONE BETTER FOR YOU THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE, BUT YOU HAVE CONCEDE TO HIS TIMING.
When I fell in love with my husband, I quickly realized God didn’t just give me what I asked for, but he gave me more. There are ways that both my husband and I compliment each other. That doesn’t mean our relationship is perfect, but it is nice knowing I have someone who is what I prayed for, and I didn’t have to go out on my own and search for it. I conceded my desires to God and He gave me the desires of my heart.
4.Each day you wish away is a day you can’t gain back.
If you’re not careful, you will spent your entire life wishing for a better job, a better house, a husband, a car, children, retirement, etc. until you finally don’t have another day left to wish for something. Contentment is something I struggle with. I am guilty for wishing to be on the other side of the fence, but contentment is where we can find our inner peace, to trust God that whatever is meant to happen, and whoever is meant to cross our paths will do so in His timing. Life becomes much more simple when we find contentment within our hearts.
5.Prayer produces growth in both your heart and the heart of the one you will marry.
If you are struggling with this season in your life, I encourage you to lock yourself in your prayer closet and cry out to God. Let Him know you’re hurt, let Him know you’re angry. Tell Him all of your problems, because He is the friend that sticks closer than a brother. He hears your cries, and feels your pain. Call out to God to bring whatever and whoever you need into your life, then trust God to do His part, and He will. Pray for growth in your heart, and pray for your future spouse. Talking to God is sometimes all you need to soothe your anxious heart when you are hurting.
6.With relationships come responsibility. Embrace belonging to yourself.
If you struggle with trusting God that He will give you the right person, I want you to know you are not alone. I wish I could take back every second I became anxious, worrying if God would give me the person He had for me. The worry took away from the joy of being single, the fact that I belonged to myself and to Jesus. All I had to worry about were my own responsibilities, but when you become married every decision you make, everything you say, and everything you do reflects not only you, but your entire family. Take this time to fall in love with God, fall in love with life. Find out what you want in life and go get it. Don’t waste a moment living in misery or fear. You are more than a conqueror and a child of the King.
7.You have time right now to find yourself.
Become comfortable with being alone. Learn to love yourself. Learn what you want in life and go find it. Pick up new hobbies, go out with your friends, spend time with your loved ones, pursue that career you always dreamed of, and love being in your own shoes. Take time to work on you, and enjoy it. It’s okay to still dream of getting married, but take this season where you are and embrace it fully, just as you will when God permits you to marry.
8.You get to embrace a sole romance with Jesus.
While you should always pursue a relationship with God, theres just something so sweet about being single and letting the Author of romance woo you. He is your first love, and He longs to have your heart before you give it to any other man. He is the Father of the Fatherless, and you are His princess. Take this opportunity to find yourself in His love, and that, my friend, makes all the difference in this season in your life.
9.If you aren’t content now, you won’t be content when you are married.
One of the tricky games the devil tries to play with your mind is that if you get married all your problems will go away. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but that is not going to happen. You will still have heartache, problems, and frustrations, they don’t go away magically when you become married. I love my husband dearly, but I can’t place the weight of my eternal happiness on Him. Thats a job that only God can bear. So find contentment in this moment, and rest in the peace that God is in control of your love life.
10.You are fiercely loved, by the biggest Romancer of all.
Last, but certainly not least, you are loved, sister and brother. You are cherished. You are adored. You are special. You are lovely. You are remarkable, and there is a God who is so in love with you, and He’s holding out His hand inviting you in. His promise to you is that you will never live one day unloved, and that is enough to lay your head down at night without fear, stress, or worry, because you know the one who is in control.