Have ever wrestled with the question; Does God have someone for me? If you have, I want you to take this tidbit of peace and place it down deep within your heart; If you have a desire for marriage, I truly believe that is something God has placed in you for a reason. I believe it is an utter beckoning from God, giving you clues to His will for your life and preparing your heart for what is to come.
I truly feel that if you weren’t meant to marry, that desire wouldn’t have been placed by God within you. The Apostle Paul spoke to the people in Corinth and told them that if you can remain single and serve that Lord, that is the simplest lifestyle. Yet he also states (as a concession and not as a commandment) that it is “better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:9) He also goes on to say that, “each one has his own gift from God, in whatever manner that may be.”
When you fall in love with God and commit your ways to Him, He places His desires for your life in your heart.
Daily as you walk closer, you will notice that the yearnings of your heart begin to align with His. The closer you walk, the further in love you fall with the Savior and begin to understand His will for your life. Your heart begins to take on the character of the heart of Jesus.
If you were not meant to marry, you would feel fully content remaining single and devoting your entire life to loving and serving your first love, Jesus. And while your heart should be committed to that extent, there is nothing wrong with having a desire to marry the man God has for you, as the both of you devote your entire lifetime to chasing after and serving your First Love.
Unfortunately, many choose not to wait on the person God has for them. It is easy to make rash decisions out of desperation and loneliness. We live in a microwave society where we’ve been taught that we shouldn’t have to wait for anything. We desire instant gratification. We want what we want, and when we want it. To wait for anything, let alone love, makes us feel uncomfortable. We’ve been trained to think that being alone for any amount of time is unacceptable.
The reason so many people miss out on their blessing is because they decide to settle for a microwave dinner instead of waiting on the feast God has for them. The best things really do take time. It’s important to remember that God is not only preparing your future husband, but He is preparing you as well. And when the time comes, God will bring you both together and it will be greater and more beautiful than you could have ever imagined.
God is the author of love. He is the embodiment of love. When we choose to hand over the pen and let God write our love story, we are choosing the divine will of God. When I gave my heart to God as a young girl, I didn’t understand all that God had in store for my life. At a young age I discovered that He was the missing piece to my heart and He was what I needed to feel the contentment I had been searching for my whole life. I fell in love with Jesus, and our romance blossomed daily as He revealed His wondrous love for me.
As I grew closer to God, He began impressing on my heart that He had more for me than just my salvation. He wanted to take care of me and bless every single area of my life for the simple fact that He loved me and I am His cherished daughter.
He wanted to bless me with the kind of love story that only He could give, just like He wants to bless you with the desires of your heart. So I gave Him the pen, and let Him do His work within me and in my life.
I truly believe you can come to a place in God where you are fully satisfied in him. But I also believe it is a natural God-given desire to dream about finding your soul mate. I went back and forth between both of those places constantly. There were many times I felt fully content in my romance with Jesus, then I had my days, just like everyone else, where I longed for my helpmate, to love and serve God with.
If I had known then what I know now, I would’ve lifted up my concerns to God and left them there, trusting that He would perfect all that concerned me. I would’ve trusted without any doubt that He would bring along my Boaz on His timetable, not mine.
God deserves the number one spot in your heart. He wants to be your first love. He longs to love and woo you, and the love He gives outweighs that of a thousand lovers. If you don’t listen to anything else I say, listen to this; fall in love with God first, and the rest will fall into place.
Seek after God relentlessly and passionately, and ask your Father to cause your desires to align with His will for your life. In doing so, He will reveal His will for your life. You may not understand the process, but your job is to trust the Author of the process.
God wants to bless you with a divine love, something that you couldn’t go out and find on your own. So let the Author write your story and embrace each chapter and step along the way.
Besides, your life doesn’t begin when you find the right man, it begins the day you find Jesus.