To Be a Good Wife You Don’t Have to Be a Perfect Wife

To be a good wife, you don't have to be perfectBy: Allysha Lynn (blogger at

I felt the need to make today the most perfect day in an effort to be a good wife to my husband. I got up early this morning with the intention of making my husband breakfast before our day got started. I rushed around getting ready, stressed getting our meal just right, then out the door we went. We had friends over for lunch where I ran around again, getting the house put together and the food cooked perfectly. I stressed over how things looked, how my dining table was arranged, I even worried about what plates to put the food on.

All day I spent worrying about making today perfect. Perfect breakfast, perfect lunch, perfect time with friends in a perfectly staged home

I did all of this because I wanted to be a good wife, which meant I had to be the perfect wife – right?

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As I stood in the shower exhausted from the early wake up I just kept chanting to myself, “I’m a good wife. I’m a good wife” over and over until I could bring myself to get ready. As I stressed over our meals and making things perfect for our friends I chanted those words again and again. Everything today was set to make our afternoon together a perfect day.

Then we went to dinner and I started to feel sick. We left in a rush because my head started to pound. The whole way home I was ready to cry because I suddenly felt so terrible and all I wanted was to lay down.

Our perfect day was ruined and it was all my fault.

After a hot shower and some time in bed, I started to feel better. I wasn’t worried about our day anymore and without that stress, my headache started to fade too. Things didn’t go as planned, but it didn’t ruin all that happened in the morning that made our day fun. We got to have Hunter’s favorite breakfast and a nice afternoon with friends.

The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. Proverbs 14:1 ESV

Scripture tells us the importance of a woman’s work in a marriage. All of my efforts this morning helped to build my home, but so easily I could have torn down all of my work if I had let the ending of our day ruin the morning. My early morning, my afternoon stress – all of it would have been for nothing if I had spent my evening mourning over how sick I felt. Our perfect day didn’t end perfectly and I wasn’t the most perfect wife – but that doesn’t mean I wasn’t a good wife.

Every day as wives we have the opportunity to build our house up or tear it down. Some days we build it up while other days we tear down weeks worth of effort and love.

I want to be a good wife to my husband, but that doesn’t require me to be the perfect wife. You don’t have to be a perfect wife either.

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Each day as we work to be good wives to our husbands, I hope we remember to build our home. In each act of service to our family; the early mornings and busy afternoons – that we remember to do it with joy to build our homes. When things go awry and the day doesn’t end the way we want it to, that we remember to not let disappointment or shame let us tear down the home we’ve already built.

What are some things you can do this week to help build your home in God’s way? Are there things you’ve torn down that you could rebuild today? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments below or over on my Facebook page. Don’t forget to like the page or subscribe to the blog so you don’t miss each new post! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts and see how I can help you build your home.

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