If I had a dime for every time someone asked me this question, I would be stinkin' rich.
Lately I was talking with a friend who brought this question up. She is an independent woman, has a lot going for herself, and is perfectly content with her single state at the moment. Still yet, she can't help but imagine what the person she will marry will be like, what qualities he will have, how they will meet, what he will look like, etc.
But the biggest question that she wanted an answer for is, how will I know I have found the right person?
"Now don't say I will just know, I'm so tired of hearing that answer," She said to me.
I couldn't help but laugh, because I realized she wasn't going to like my answer.
"Actually, it is actually more simple than you think it is. When God determines that the time is right, He will reveal that person to you in a light you never seen them in that way before."
Sometimes the most beautiful things are so simple. God is love, He is the author of love, and you don't have to force or stress anything because when the time comes, He will reveal who you will marry. He will guide your steps. But just stay close to Him. Embrace His love and stay in tune with his voice.
I used to stress this question, way more than I should have. If I had known then what I know now, I would have just trusted God. Because it literally is just that simple. In your heart, when the time comes you will know that is right person.
When God sees fit to bring your partner into your life, He will do so and reveal it to you when the time is right.
While I can't give you a play by play of how it is going to go down when you meet the person you are going to marry, I do know that it will be unique, it will be wonderful, and it will be beautiful.
God knows exactly what you need and when you need it. Our only job is to trust our Father, that He will give us all the things we need in His perfect timing.
The best advice I could give you is to relentlessly pursue God in your current season, be faithful to Him, and trust that He is preparing your future for you. His plans are to prosper you, and not to harm you. He wants to give you His best in life, and sometimes the best things in life take patience, because we aren't ready for that stage of our life just yet.
You are a princess in preparation. Instead of stressing that you will "miss" the person that God has for your life, trust God that nothing in all the earth can stop what God has ordained. When God wants two people to be together, they will be, plain and simple. We don't have to get ahead of ourselves, we can let God take the lead.
As a daughter/son of God look for qualities in a spouse that remind you of Jesus.
Does that person love you like Jesus?
How do they love others?
What is at the center of their heart?
Do they bear the fruits of the spirit?
Do they walk in love?
How do they act when no one else is watching?
God desires that we as Christians are equally yoked with our spouses. Equally yoked means to marry another believer who is on the same spiritual level as you. When you are both pushing and striving for God, you are moving in the same direction. If you marry an unbeliever, you will both be traveling in opposite directions, which is not the will of God in a marriage.
Strive to grow closer to God together. Pull each other toward God. Let God remain at the center of your marriage, and you will be blessed.
God is taking care of you and He loves you.
He has the very best in store for you, his precious child. You can trust that your Maker has everything under control, and that when you place your love story in God's hands, He will give you a love so much better than any fairy tale you've ever seen.