Is it the Will of God?
Guest Post By: Laura Reyes
(author of God, When Will I Get Married?)
There comes a time in your life that you will meet the person that you have been praying for all along. There comes a sense of peace that truly does surpass all understanding. You see the hand of God in your relationship from the beginning.
When I started dating my husband I knew he was the one for me because everything I have ever prayed for and asked God for was being answered one by one. Those hidden desires in my heart that I didn’t even realize I wanted but God knew that I wanted, even if I didn’t tell Him about them.
God's will is perfect, it doesn’t lack anything. God's will brings joy and peace. He came at the perfect moment in my life, not when I was looking for him like crazy, but when I least expected it and with who I least imagined.
My husband and I will serve a lot in church together and we have these deep, long conversations. One day, before we started dating, while I was talking to him, I said to myself, “God, thank you for showing me that there are good guys out there and that there are guys who are respectful, loving, and pure.”
Little did I know that this guy, the one that God was using to show me these things, was the man that He had set aside for me.
I started to see life in a completely different way. Little by little, all of those hurts and the mentality I had about men was erased. Being with him encouraged me to seek God more and never in my life had I felt so sure about something.
Remember that God's will doesn’t bring confusion so if you feel the slightest doubt, then you know it’s a sign for you to continuing seeking the voice of God.
The longer I was with him, the more that God used him to show me what real love was. It was a love that didn’t change its mind, that loved me even when I was acting a bit crazy, that was patient with me as God changed my insecurities. and that took care of me when I didn’t know my way.
He sought the Lord for our future and made sure that every decision we made was aligned to the will of God and then together we got on this journey called marriage that has forever changed my life.
So how do you know if they are the will of God? Who are you when you are with them? Do they bring you closer to God or do you feel like your relationship is making you drift away? You can find the answer in the word of God.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it’s not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails."
Love is patient: It’s willing to wait to hear from God to make the next move. It doesn’t rush things but desires to do things right. Love means being patient with your partner. Love waits for them and doesn’t get mad if there is something that they are not doing right.
Love is kind: It doesn’t hurt the other person. It uses kind words when speaking. It Doesn’t disrespect the other person, but has a heart of love and kindness. It knows that the person they have next to them was given to them by God.
Love does not boast; it is not proud: It doesn’t think they are always right. It doesn’t have a prideful attitude but is willing to lay down their desires to please the other person.
It is not self-seeking: It does not run the other way when they don’t get what they want.
It’s not easily angered: It has so much love for the other person that it’s hard for them to get upset. They are willing to talk and communicate about anything, and they know that there is nothing together that they cannot solve.
It keeps no record of wrongs: Forgiveness is a way of life for them. You realize that the other person is human and that there will be mistakes made, but you speak about what hurt you and you make the decision to completely forgive and never bring up again what was done. You forgive and you forget.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth: You realize that together you are a team and together you create a vision and goals that you both want to achieve. It does not become a competition. You don’t feel like you have to do something to impress the other person or to be better than them. You are so in love that when they are blessed, you are blessed and when they are hurt, you are hurt.
Love always protects: You don’t speak badly about them. You protect their image, you protect them from harm, and you are always looking out for their best interest.
Love always trust: You don’t worry about them cheating on you or doing something bad because you have complete trust in who they are. They never give you a reason to doubt them. You trust them with your most inner thoughts and secrets.
Love always hopes: Love has a plan, has a purpose, and together you create your mission statement. You seek God together and you realize that God has joined you together to complete one purpose and one assignment on earth.
Love always preserves: You are always pushing to strengthen your relationship and to reach your goals. If things are becoming a little bumpy you don’t give up but you seek God's guidance. You persevere and push forward together.
Love never fails: Because what God has joined together, no man can ever separate.
I encourage you to look at that question in a different way. God is preparing the way for you, He is setting up every single piece. Just like a GPS guides you and gives you direction, God is directing you and will answer your prayers.
Don’t worry about how you will get there or exactly what will need to happen and when. But let God guide you on this journey and be ready to take a left turn when He needs you to and take a right turn when He needs you too.
He will make sure you don’t get lost. Enjoy that road trip and enjoy every second. While you are on your way make sure you are the best you can be, because the exit to your question is coming up and when you have reached the destination you will begin one of the most amazing journeys of your life.