The other night I had a spiritual dream that has lingered with me these last few days and I feel like it was for you, the person reading this.
In my dream, (I was observing from afar) I was watching individuals choose their partner, but it wasn’t just for their wedding day, they were choosing a partner to go to battle with. In my dream these couples trained together, took advice from their elders, were attending counseling together, and preparing for not only marriage but for war.
When I awoke, God started speaking to me about this dream.
What He told me was that when you choose the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, you are not only choosing a husband/wife, you are choosing an accomplice, a partner in crime, a HELPER. (Where else have you heard the term helper? Genesis 2:18)
Life has a way of bringing you to your knees, and when that time comes, you are going to need someone fighting by your side rather than against you.
A wise woman in my life once told me, not too long after my husband and I got married, to remember that when the hard times came to remember he was my husband and not my enemy and to now allow the enemy to come between us.
Choosing a life partner is not something to take lightly. Choose someone who is going to fight this battle with you, serve God with you, and love you just as Christ loves the church, because you are going to need it.
Choose someone who displays Godly characteristics not just in the good times, but in the bad times as well.
Marry the person that is willing to get down on their hands and knees and intercede on your behalf when you are down in the pit. Marry the person who is going to go to war with you.
Marriage isn’t about the wedding day, there is much, much more to it. Does your relationship have the substance to make it through the long haul? Are you willing to stick around and not be ruled by your emotions but rather by the love of God and the covenant you have both made together?
This isn’t a light subject, so I hope you will not take it as so. God wants you to bless you with the kind of love story that only He can give, but you are going to need someone who will stick by your side when the world around you comes crashing in, and you will need to be that kind of person.
So again I say, choose wisely. Practice discernment when choosing a partner and most of all pray for them. Every time you get on your knees and pray for the person you are going to marry, before and after the wedding, you are going to war on their behalf.
It is worth it to ask yourself the hard questions now rather than later, and it is beyond important to pray for your future husband/wife and to seek God’s approval first and foremost on choosing a life partner/battle partner.